3.Howto Forgive,Forget and Let Go

　　①Forgiving someone does not mean releasing them from an earlierguilt.What if the person who wronged you is not living?What if the person issomeone who made you extremely embarrassed during school 20 or 30 yearsago?Letting go of emotional pain does not mean that nothing happened;it meansthat you no longer want to be controlled by it.

　　②Recognize that forgiveness is not denial.Whatever caused the painwas a real incident.Denying that it happened means it is too painful to workthrough the emotions.There is no timeline on forgiveness.Some steps take longerto get through,and it is acceptable to set them aside for a period of time.Partof forgiveness is understanding whether or not someone takes responsibility forwhat happened,and may even show regret.

　　③Understand that not everyone who forgives reconciles with theperson who caused the pain.There are relationships that are harmful and evenphysically dangerous.While it is possible to forgive the past and move beyondit,it may also mean that the person who was involved can no longer play anactive role in your life.If a person or situation is not safe,it may be bestnot to reconcile the relationship now.Work on forgiveness at a time when youare emotionally healthy and physically safe.

　　④Make a conscious decision to forgive someone.Even if they neverapologize for what happened,determine within yourself that it is fine toproceed without this apology.Apologies should not be asking forforgiveness.Apologies should be offered as an effort of true regret.They shouldbe admitting that taking personal responsibility for the situation isimportant.Even without that apology,make up your mind to forgive,forget,andeventually let go.

A.Forgivingshould be at a safe time

B.Forgivingis not to deny what happened

C.Forgivingis not to free someone from blame

D.Forgivingcan happen without an apology

E.Forgivingcan lead us away from the past hurt

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A.youmay not become friends

B.tooffer forgiveness

C.whoare still dangerous to you

D.whowronged you long time ago

E.youmay never get rid of emotional pain

F.whoonly forgive those showing regret

G.forbeing forgiven

1-5.Youmay forgive someone________.

1-6.Thereis no fixed time________.

1-7.Evenif you’ve forgiven someone, ________.

1-8.Don’trush to forgive those________.

1-9.Somepeople apologize merely________.

1-10.Ifyou expect an apology, ________.