Women search high and low for a truly great guy. When I was in my teens, I thought I could have it all: the guy with the model looks, fabulous family, fantastic job, who knows his purpose in life and knows to automatically rub my feet when I get home from work。

女人总是寻寻觅觅，期待遇到完美的白马王子。年轻时我就以为自己可以拥有一切：那个男人相貌英俊、家境殷实、工作体面;他不仅清楚自己的人生目标，还懂得在我下班回家后对我倍加呵护。

Obviously, I had a quick wake-up call that the fairy tale I dreamed of didn’t exist! That didn’t mean I couldn’t have what I wanted, it just meant I had to reevaluate some of the qualities that I wanted my partner to have. Here are seven of the most important qualities women find attractive in men:

显然，我很快被敲了一记警钟，意识到这种童话根本就不存在!当然，这并不表示我无法拥有自己渴望的东西，只是说明我应该重新考虑对另一半品质的期许。下面就是女人认为男人最有魅力的七大特质：

1. An ability to enjoy the present moment

能够珍惜当下

With how busy we are and how connected we are to everyone and everything virtually, it is so attractive when a man can put his phone down, turn off the TV, shut down the computer and just enjoy being present. It is nice to be connected and be able to access almost any information that we need at the drop of a dime, but to be able to shut down without getting antsy to get back to Facebook or football is something you don’t come by too often。

现实中，每个人都忙于应付各种人际关系和各类繁琐事务，要是某个男人能够放下电话、关掉电视、合上电脑，愿意单纯陪你享受此时此刻的话，那真是太有风度了!随时保持联络并获取各类信息纵然很有必要，但若能暂时屏蔽Facebook或球赛，岂不是更难能可贵?

2. Knowing your purpose

清楚自己的目标

Nothing is more sexy than a man who isn’t afraid to go for what he was sent here to do. There are a ton of men out there who believe they need to be “big strong men” and do what they were taught, but it takes a truly special man to put himself out there and follow what he was meant to do。

如果一个男人能勇往直前地追求自己的目标，那真是再有魅力不过了!这世上有很多人都觉得自己应该遵循教诲、努力成为“强大的男人”，但真正身体力行去做的，却只有那么寥寥数个。

3. A man who is motivated and driven is awesome

有动力很上进的男人很棒

No, I’m not talking about an expensive car. I’m talking about a man who has the ability to go after what he wants. Ambition is something that women find very attractive in men. Not ambition in the sense that you knock other people down to build yourself up, but in the fact that you will work hard to get what you want and help others to do the same thing。

这里要讲的不是名车，而是强调男人应该能够努力争取自己渴望的东西。女人认为雄心壮志的男人很有魅力。这里的壮志不是说你可以撂倒他人强大自我，而是说你能够通过努力工作来得到自己渴望的东西，同时还能向他人伸出援手。

4. Attractiveness comes from making us laugh

魅力来自逗人欢笑

It has been my experience in all of my relationships—and with men I’ve had crushes on—that I would choose the man who made me laugh over the drop dead sexy one. Every. Single.Time. Women want a guy who values what a good laugh can do for your body and soul. Women truly appreciate men who can make them laugh and laugh at themselves too。

凭我的恋爱经验——在迷恋过的男人中，我宁可选择能让我欢笑的男人，也不要帅得酷毙了的家伙。真的每一次都是这样。女人喜欢能让自己身心愉悦、开怀大笑的男人，也真心欣赏那些不仅逗人开心也自得其乐的男人。

5. Honesty and trustworthiness

诚实并值得信任

I don’t know about you, but knowing that I can trust a man is so important. Although, if my butt still looks fat in those jeans, I don’t want to know! In all seriousness though, knowing that a man will tell me the truth is very important. Communication and trust are two of the biggest things that make or break relationships。

不知道你怎么想，但我觉得能够信任一个男人很重要。或许穿上牛仔裤后我的臀部还是不够好看，但我就是不希望被说出来!可是正儿八经些，我又确实希望男人能实话实说。沟通和信任是决定维系或搞砸恋爱关系的两大关键所在。

6. A man who takes care of himself is sexy

能照顾好自己的男人很有魅力

Something that is so attractive in men is when they take care of themselves. Now that doesn’t mean you have to be pumping iron all day, every day, but to really know what types of foods you’re putting into your body and how to take care of it is pretty darn sexy。

如果一个男人能够照顾好自己，那么他就很有魅力。当然，这不是要求男人每天坚持举哑铃练肌肉，而是希望他能知道如何健康饮食并照顾好自己——这样的男人很有吸引力。

7. A man who is supportive of our dreams and goals

能够支持女人梦想和目标的男人

When a man stands behind me 100%， no matter what, it shows how much he cares and truly believes in me. Being with someone who believes in you and your potential, and vice versa, will create a different dynamic in your relationship. There is less tension and less negativity because of how you believe in each other。

当一个男人100%为我加油鼓劲时，不管怎样，我都认为这代表他有多么在乎我、多么相信我。和相信彼此及各自潜能的人在一起的话，俩人的关系会充满截然不同的活力。因为你们相互信任，所以也就少了很多紧张和负面情绪。

These are just a few of the many qualities that women find attractive in men. What qualities am I missing? What do you find attractive in men?

以上只是女人觉得男人有魅力的部分特质，或许还有些特质是我不曾发现的。你觉得怎样的男人有魅力?